It is not every day that you come across a Chinese themed wedding. So when we were asked to feature Ricky and Grace's beautiful wedding the answer was a resounding yes!
Was the proposal a surprise or did you have a clue? Tell us the story?
I alighted and met him at the door now coming to pick me. He tried explaining that his new boss was the one he was on the phone with and that he had just got the new job. I was happy for him but still mad, so he tried to calm me down and I wouldn’t hear it…that’s when he gave me a big box, with another small one inside(as a gift for trying to apologize ). The small one had the ring in it and he asked if I could be his wife, while on both knees! I said yes amidst tears…even forgot I was mad.
What made you fall in love with him?
On our first date, I asked him what his long and short term goals were and getting married was one of them. That’s when I knew he was focused, serious and not here to play games with me. He is very gentle, sweet, humble, for real, focused and God fearing.
What was your wedding theme and what inspired your choice of colors and style?
At first I wanted a Hawaiian theme, but we figured it would be rainy in October (wedding time), so I looked for other options and we settled for Chinese because it’s unique. He loves red and I love black, so we settled for black and red.
Give a brief recount of the wedding day, from waking up till evening and the things that were going through your mind at the time.
Grace: the brides maids spent at my (parents’) place. I dint get to sleep out of anxiety, so I woke them up early. I was excited and couldn’t believe that the day had finally come. We had planned for a whole year. My whole family was excited too so it was excitement all day! Even walking down the isle, we were just laughing with my dad….I thought I would cry or tremble, but it was smooth. There was a lot of dancing during the day, till around 6.30 in the evening.
Ricky: I also did not get to sleep. Spent the night with most of the grooms men and it was all excitement. I called her at 5a.m to check if she had woken up. We were ready o time and seeing her walk down the isle, I was just happy she was gonna be my wife. She was so beautiful and gracious! The day was full of laughter and dancing.
What would you say was your biggest challenge during the planning process and how did you overcome it?
Dealing with family during the dowry process was quite hectic. We would argue a lot because of the pressure we had, but our best couple also helped us a lot in understanding each other. We eventually learnt that we had to be a team and also through prayer, God helped us to handle each other well and we agreed to stick together as a team.
Try and make your families understand that how they treat each other also has an impact on your marriage and that they also will need to relate even after the wedding so they should treat each other with respect and understanding.
Defend your spouse even if you dont feel like, because that will send the message that you are a team and that you treasure them 1st before anyone else and pray together, it builds your strength together. Avoid spending on unnecessary things and maximize on what is most important.
When the d-day comes, we can promise some things will go wrong….families will act up, suppliers will let you down, cars will break down, but whatever happens, purpose to enjoy your day. Its only one day in a lifetime , so enjoy it to the max. if you’re excited, your guests will draw from your excitement and make the day more beautiful. Don’t be gloomy.
At Kenya Weddings we are always looking for something different unique and creative that a couple incorporates in their wedding.
What was your "something different"? and what inspired you and how you got it done.
Our theme was the most unique thing. We researched a lot online on Chinese themes and we got a lot of ideas from it. Pulling it wasn’t so easy but we also had a good tailor (Hawi creations) who brought out the designs exactly the way we wanted.
Our pastor, who has been walking with us through out this journey knows us quite well and he kinda custom made our vows…its like he was downloading them straight from heaven.