Steve and Judy met through a common friend about 8 years before they got married. And in their own words 'getting married to each other was their dream come true'. Read on to find out what their was like; from the planning process leading up to the joyous event.
Tell us your story.
We are what you call a match made in heaven. Right after we met, we became the best of friends. And now here we are…….
How and where did you meet?
We met through a mutual Rwandese friend, whom we thank dearly. I used to see him around my neighborhood and wondered where he lived. Shockingly, we lived pretty close. Ever since our introduction, we automatically became great friends.
How long have you dated?
Well, we dated for 8 sweet years before we decided to tie the knot. We both had school and many other commitments that came our way. Then we travelled out of the country for work. All the joy in our long term relationship simply had to be shared, in front of God , our family and friends. We had to make it official.
What do you love the most about each other?
Steve is my solace, my soul mate and my best friend. He is so funny, he cracks me up, whether near of far, he lights me up. Its crazy how we share everything with each other, and I mean everything. Steve has a heart of gold, very rare to find. He is God- fearing, intelligent, warm, caring, charismatic, and last but not least, such a hunk.
How did he propose?
Hmmm, this was so unexpected to me. Seeing as he works out of the country, he was coming home after 8 long months, I was going to see him again. After a few days, he took me for a weekend get away to a luxurious place. As I was unpacking our suitcases, he grabbed me from behind unexpectedly. I was shocked. So I turned to face him and there it was, he had a ring on his hand and he popped the question, “ Spend the rest of your life with me, marry me?’ My heart was racing; I guess it skipped a beat or three. I felt pins and needles all over. I said a huge YES and hugged him tight.
For how long did you plan the wedding?
We planned the wedding for about 9 months or less. I started early to identify suppliers all thanks to your website. I got them cheaper as I booked them as early as we decided on the final amount. I had to do most stuff alone on the ground as my husband was out of the country for work. But his help was unmatched. It was like he was with me through out. I enjoyed how I was treated like a bride through it all. I felt like a bride for 9 months.
What songs did you and your bridal team walk don the isle to?
The Groom – P-Square’s Beautiful Onyinye
The Kids – Kidum’s Kichuna Changu
Bridal Party – Exodus’ Igwe
The Bride – Golden
Exit – Willy Paul’s Mpenzi
What was your wedding theme and what inspired your choice of colors, suppliers and style?
Our wedding theme was an elegant fairy tale wedding. We went for romp, color, class, elegance and finesse. This led us to turquoise blue and fuchsia. We looked for our suppliers online. In addition to this, we got referrals from our family and friends, whom we continue to be thankful to.
Give a brief recount of your wedding day, from waking up till evening, and the things that were going through your mind at the time.
I woke up at 6am after 4-5hrs of sleep. We said a prayer with my fiancé’ and I headed to get prepared at my parents house. It was a sunny day, thank God. My hair got done and so did my make-up; on point I must say. I actually had butterflies. All the time I was thinking about my handsome Steve, thanking God that we are able to see our big day. Walking down the isle to see my handsome groom, to the words of a beautiful song; struck my heart, but the best part was my husband’s vows.
They were heavenly and I melted down in tears. We were planning to have an eventful occasion of a lifetime, we surely did not disappoint. From the church, to the reception and the evening party, it was super. My husband and I had planned to dance, and we did. Mad fun! Our favorite music group and Jazz Band were there. And another thing, there was no traffic whatsoever, that jazzed me big time as we did not waste time on the road. We would do it again if we could. One thing, God did it for us.
Tell us your biggest cost saver and any cost saving tips you have for people planning their wedding.
We saved a lot on transport. We hired transport for our families and guests and talked to our friends to come with their cars to help in transport and it worked. Also, we decided to do the e-cards and save a lot on printing cards. We printed a few for the families and community groups. Our grounds were huge and the price was so worth it. Not exaggerated. Also, my elegant gown was imported from the states and it was much more cost effective than those in town.
You must have learnt white a number of things the wedding process. What did you learn regarding the wedding gown, that you would like other couples to know?
During the wedding process, I learnt that you should pray, pray, and put God first. You will know your true friends, you will be let down and surprised as well. Involve your family as much as you can and your mentors. Always have a plan B. Something may not turn out as expected, so have 2 or 3 back-ups, just in case.
When choosing your best couple, go for a married one. As they have experience and will be your guardians during this road. As for us, my husband took his big brother, and as for me my big sister. It was such a wonderful event.
Your wedding gown needs to flatter your figure and your wedding theme as well. You can try as many gowns as you wish, trust me, they will all look beautiful. Know your budget and keep to it. Also, remember to wear comfortable shoes. You will be thanking yourself when you have been kept standing for the better part of the day.
What in your opinion, do you think is the most overrated thing in a wedding?
The bridal car; geez! You do not have to spend a fortune to arrive in style.
Any other tips/ lessons you would like with other brides and grooms?
To others on this road, prayer changes things, pray. Have at least half to two-thirds of your wedding budget. At the end of the day, you will need to finance your own wedding. Work as a team from the word go. Be prepared for everything and anything. Smile and be happy. Your guests will go with the flow. Dance, let loose and have fun. Only you can make your day perfect, even when the unavoidable hiccups come.
As for us, we invested in the stuff that was most important to us like our wedding rings, food, photography, MC, cake and our elegant look.
Wedding Venue - KTTC Gigiri Photography Venue - Kingdom Gardens Guest House Wedding Photographer - Studio Eye Biz Number of Guests - 500